Hello beautiful people!
Let’s get committed.
There’s nothing mysterious about how to lose weight, get fit, stop smoking, drink less, stop bailing on ourselves or others, stop flaking out on commitments, go to sleep earlier, do our self-tapes, meet up with accountability buddies, or even get access to an agent at the next tier. Zero mystery. The information is out there.
While we’re busy gathering more information, what we actually need to be doing is committing to any one of the decisions we’ve made about how to attack any sort of goal we set out for ourselves. Committing and sticking to it. Seriously. And before you start to beat yourself up for any shortcomings you believe you’ve revealed to yourself in these 100 days about your ability to show up for something you sooooooo thought you’d be here for every single day no matter what, please let me state for the record that this course was never meant for anyone other than the true superhuman high-achiever the likes of me to be able to stay on top of every single day. I designed this course for Bonnie Level Achievement.
And I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I achieve the fuck out of whatever I take on.
How do I do that? By committing and sticking to it. By being consistent. By giving myself downtime when I need it (unapologetically). And by staying aligned with next-tier me. Period. That’s why I use a lot of analogies that include “muscle building” at their core. Until you build a muscle for sustained success, you’re just not gonna live it! And I want you living it, baby. I want you to have what you say you want to have. Since almost all of what you say you want to have is nothing that eludes you due to the lack of information about how to achieve it, it’s really quite simple: Committing to your own success — and being on your own damn side as you go after it — is going to be your best friend. Now and forever.
I have a ridiculous amount of integrity with this. And honey, integrity is when your words match your actions. (Tweet it.)
Whether it’s starting up a huge commitment like these 100 days, doing the 30-day self-tape challenge, or adding a weekly non-negotiable practice to your mindset work or accountability action, your consistency, your commitment, your connection to yourself no matter what is what makes all the difference. A new blog you were going to start doing regularly, additions to your YouTube channel, hitting more networking events, cleaning up your creative circle of collaborators so you’re all doing more working than grousing… all of it. Think of how many times you’ve started something up then petered out. There’s that whole “the road to Hell is paved with good intentions” thing, right? Since we’re working to create a joy-filled journey to the next tier for a lifetime of leaps, it’s time to stop giving up on yourself — and to stop setting yourself up for failure by starting in on things that are outside your threshold of commitment level.
Here’s what I mean: There’s this thing I like to call the one-yardline disease. You’ve done the work to get allllllllllllll the way to the one yardline. You’ve clutched that ball, you’ve avoided getting pounded by gargantuan attackers, you’ve bobbed and weaved your way through all the obstacles never letting go of that ball and never losing sight of that goal. And then you get to the one yardline and just stop. You drop the ball. You fall short. You eff up. Consistently.
It’s the when it happens consistently part that is the real problem here. Because everyone has gotten as far as the one yardline only to drop the ball now and then. Every single person — no matter how successful — has failed. In fact, the more successful we are, the more failure we’ve weathered. It’s the coming back from failure thing that successful people do more often, as the saying goes. But when what you do consistently is the stopping short thing, you see that you are absolutely succeeding at what you’ve committed to consistently show up for! Your consistency is in the falling short… and THAT pattern is one only you can break.
We’ve shared a lot of solutions for working through maladaptive patterns, ranging from reframing your thinking on up to the full-on woo-woo goodness. You have a lot of options here and more to explore in The SMFA Vault. We will never run out of creative ways to come at your desire to become Next-Tier You. Never. But only you can *apply* the methods and do the work that makes change take root. Many of you told me as early as in the single-digit days of this course that you were already forever changed and that tells me we’ve got great odds for seeing you slam through all sorts of limits that used to hold you back. Awesome!
And if that’s not feeling like you, what are you going to do to UP your commitment, your consistency, your gift to yourself to actually see this all the way through? What can you do today to increase your commitment level so that it cascades into all levels of your pursuit?
Confidence is a big part of commitment. So is charisma. When you are committed to a performance, a career, a lifestyle, you exude confidence and charisma (two very attractive things). You know we love to compare casting to dating, right? Welp, in either situation, we don’t like the desperate candidates and we find ourselves attracted to the people we want to spend time with. Period. It’s the same way you feel when you meet a new friend and can’t wait to see each other again because you just have so much fun together. There is something attractive about people who are confident, committed, and in their element. Build this muscle. Start by being committed to your tiniest choices. You will eventually build confidence in your performances (auditions are just short performances, y’know) and that will extend to confidence in yourself.
Start slowly if this is terrifying. But start. Because it will be all the difference in whether you are able to truly leap forth from this amazing launchpad you’ve been experiencing every day.
Today’s work: Without using this as a way to beat yourself up, identify any task or goal that isn’t getting moved forward very much thanks to your level of commitment. This is where you need to get really honest with yourself about whether or not you’re using some really handy excuses to justify not getting past the one yardline with things. Any convo in your world that is not actively inching you toward your goals — or that isn’t bringing you joy, money, some sort of tier-jump of some kind — consider not engaging in it anymore. Align everything in your life so that it is fully in service of your goals, once and for all. Be “on a mission.” Let the thing others say about you be that you’re so freakin’ committed to making your dreams come true that they’ve never seen anything like it. Then go do it. No one else is gonna do it for you!
Share your passion for your goals below but only when that passion has been stripped of any excuses you’ve ever used for NOT achieving them. You now know thanks to this course that no one stands in your way for getting to the next tier. No one. Because the only one who could stand in your way is you and you’re done letting that be the case. Are you committed? Not just to your craft and your health and your family and your friends and your faith and whatever else that ranks high on the commitment scale for you but also to yourself and these goals and what it’s going to take to be clocked in full-time for the Next-Tier You business at hand? Let’s hear it! I want some passionate hollerin’ going on about this!
I’m so proud of you. You’ve GOT this!
’til tomorrow… stay ninja!
