Hello beautiful people!
Let’s talk about believing you’re enough. There are five stages.
- We are enough but don’t yet really believe it.
- We are enough and say we believe it but would really like more proof.
- We are enough, believe it, and have enough proof that we begin to lead with that badassery.
- We are enough, believe it, have haters who wanna tell us we’re not enough… and that feels uncomfortable but not unbearable.
- We are enough, believe it, may or may not have haters but who the heck has a minute to notice because it’s so hectic and blissful being so damn awesome over here. Amiright?!?
Watch… and then read on!
No matter how many hours you’ve put in, no matter how much you’ve been paid, no matter how much fanmail you’ve received… you may still have trouble believing you’re enough. That’s why I know this is an inside job. You have to believe you are enough in order to get impostor syndrome to hush.
Because until you get this belief rewired — which we do through practicing a better thought consistently over time — you can reach the goals you say you have yet still never feel the joy you believe will be associated with reaching those goals.
Think about that. You can get everything you’ve ever wanted in life and *still* not feel as though you’re enough… so you’ve gotta do the work of knowing you’re enough FIRST. From there, everything flows to us with so much more ease.
We start by properly labeling our self-talk.
Here’s a bonus vid from back in the early days of Periscope (2015).
This task is all about accurately labeling what’s going on. When you hear yourself saying something that diminishes your enoughness, label it as “that belief I’m leaving behind” and then quickly add “I am enough” (or “that is enough” about a task you are doing or about how far you got in the casting process or whatever else you’re judging yourself about).
Work this muscle for fortifying your enoughness so that you rewire the belief that could hobble you many tiers from now if you don’t get it sorted ahead of time.
Try simply not allowing yourself to self-bash during these 100 days.
When you feel yourself trying to be mean to yourself, last-name yourself to get your attention, stop that abuse, and then use the “I am enough” refrain. When you doubt there’s gonna be any benefit to this inner work, I’ll just ask this of you: By the time you’re in your late 20s, you’ve lived more than 10,000 days. We’ve done this YOUR way a long time. How ’bout we just TRY these 100 days my way? How ’bout these 100 days, we let “I am enough” be in charge a bit? (Click to tweet that baby out.)
What might you be afraid to give up when you finally believe you’re enough? What benefits must you be getting by not idling at the FIFTH (and awesomest) stage of enoughness? Are you playing small because that’s your role in your fam? Do you have “earnings shame” that would upset the rules in your relationships if suddenly you were an overscale working actor at a much higher tier? If you suddenly were successful in your creative life they all said was too risky? Do you need to believe you’ve not earned the life of your dreams somehow? Are you hopelessly tied to what others think of you, meaning haters will *always* win?
Get real about this setting you’ve chosen… unless of course you’re already right up there with me in the fifth stage! — #BigOl5! Yay! — And then, hey, share what that’s like and what you did to finally click in, there! Ownership is an important and interesting process. Share your thoughts and feelings on your resting state of enoughness below.
And remember… whatever you share is enough!
’til tomorrow… stay ninja!
