Hello beautiful people!
Let’s connect with our ninja community!
One of the things we give ourselves too little of is the support that’s waiting for us at all times.
I’ll never forget a conversation I had with a friend — Colleen Wainwright of the “Are you SURE it’s impossible?” fundraiser, in fact — in which we, as usual, were sharing our goals with one another, talking up a storm, “yes, and…”-ing all the good stuff and reframing all the bad stuff… when she stopped and said, “Hey, Bon? How can I support you in this?”
See, we’re so used to working out the problems we cart around in our heads that we’re not often prepared for a way through that we hadn’t considered: something that takes place outside our beautiful minds.
But what it takes to see this little bit of magic come through for us is the willingness to ask for help. Which we’re often afraid to do. Afraid of how we’ll look to others? Nervous that we’ll appear farther off from our dreams than we want to be perceived? Terrified that what we fear most about ourselves will be revealed once we’re honest that we’re kind of making things up as we go along?
Today we’re gonna stop that bit of foolishness and build a muscle for asking for support. The ninja community is outstanding for this purpose, but you can choose whatever population you prefer. You just have to do it.
Because absolutely no one has ever been a triumphant success all alone. No one has ever gotten up to accept their Oscar and said, “I’d like to thank no one, because this is alllllllllllll me.” Nope. No one. Not ever.
Big work requires big support. So sad we often give ourselves the benefit of very little of it.
That changes today. I mean this especially for those of you who’ve silently pushed through to this point, never once commenting, tweeting, or replying to an email to share how it’s going. I’m poking you right now: We’re HERE for you, babe. But you’ve gotta reach out that hot little hand of yours.
Two of my long-term masterminders get on Zoom together once every week for an hour to write on their scripts. They’re not writing partners. They’re not even working in the same genre! But they’re both writers who find it hard to carve time out for writing, so this date is something they’ll stick to. They show up for one another, if not for themselves! And every 20 minutes during the hour of Zoom time, they stop and check in with one another, sometimes workshopping dialogue that’s clunky or discussing a plot point that’s sticky. They’ve completed multiple scripts in record time due to this virtual collaboration. And all it took was saying, “Hey. I need a little support in this area. You game?”
Because of course the answer was YES. It always is, when your community is filled with such spectacular human beings.
Pick a day of homework from this course and do a deep dive together! Help each other with cover letters, bios, on-brand footage, getting going on self-taping, money blocks, book club discussions for all the recommended reading we’ve laid out, mindset issues… whatever it is that will help you come at things from a different perspective because you’ve been able to get the junk out of your HEAD and out into the world where the air can hit it and sparks can fly around it!
There’s magic in this. Trust me. And do it now.