Here’s a quick reminder about how to be helpful, how NOT to be helpful, and that you are a role model, a leader, a lighthouse.
Enjoy!
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The Instructional Hub for Self-Management for Actors, Chart Harmony, and All Things Bonnie Gillespie
Here’s a quick reminder about how to be helpful, how NOT to be helpful, and that you are a role model, a leader, a lighthouse.
Enjoy!
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Oh, thank you so much for this audio. I enjoyed listening to it.
“If you behave as a life raft for others you get exhausted, weighed down, and distracted from the real work you are meant to do.”—LOVE this!!!
I have been holding off on charging in and giving people all of these ways to fix their problems because I know they are not in a space that is ready to receive it. Their attitude and actions clearly show me that they are just not mentally ready for it. Sometimes you have to let people go through a bit of a struggle and then wait until they in the right frame of mind to receive the help you can give them. And honestly, it can be frustrating to witness these people just continually hop on and off the “struggle bus”.
This was a great audio!
Yay! So glad you enjoyed it! 🙂 When you explore the 12-part master class series on flow theory, you’ll notice that struggle is an important part of entering a state of flow. Some folks’ struggle phase just lasts a lot longer than we’d like to see ’em struggling. Once we know they’re not choosing to LIVE in a place of struggle (Eeyore Syndrome), we can trust they’re gonna ramp up into a state of flow or growth or expansion of some sort and then we can be that lighthouse shining a way they may wish to explore!
Thanks to Aerial for calling this one out to me. I really needed to hear this today, and that’s one of the things I love about The Vault. It’s like walking through a treasure trove. As Abraham Hicks would say, “You can’t do it all at once.” Each step, each discovery is important, each gem is worth holding to the light to see its facets.
With this awesome MP3, it resonated with me because I’ve always been The Fixer in my family. My parents were too young when they had me, and so, as I got older, I took on this role of trying to fix everyone’s problems. Lots of therapy later, I’ve been releasing that role with my family and seeing how important it is for them to walk their own paths and fix their own problems. I also see how important it is to empower them this way, to trust that they CAN take care of themselves.
I love what you said, Bonnie, about empowering others by being a lighthouse. To me, this is seeing their own personal superhero inside of them, acknowledging their power – and mine! Like you wrote to Aerial, “We can trust they’re going to ramp up” and expand into their greatness.
This is a good reminder to keep working on – and nurturing – my light, being aware of walking my path and doing my work. Thank you so much, Bon! You brilliant lighthouse you! 🙂 ((((((Hug)))))
*smooch*
This was great. I will keep reminding myself to be that beacon of light rather than a fixer. I am starting at home with my family. They say “give a man a fish and feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime.” Well, I say “fish and allow others the chance to teach themselves how to fish”. Also, it’s so much more empowering and long-lasting when you go through the experience yourself than when someone else tells you what to do. I got this lesson. Thanks!
Yay! 🙂 I think it’s so important — developmentally — to let people have their life lessons. Glad this resonated.
Thank you for this. It goes along with the idea of continuing to run my own marathon & refuse to compare my artistic path with others’ (no more self-criticizing; I’m enough). Continuing to shine and focus on my own work while still serving others is a healthy plan to follow. 🙂
You’ve got this! 🙂
OMG! Here I am.. I got the a round today where we are to look at the Life Pie.
I quickly realized my Pie needs more in self care.
So… headed over to the Vault and I’m dipping into some self care with you here.
This one was so meant to be today.
Exactly why I stepped back from teaching this semester. I have two teachers filling in for me at my little youth/teen actor school out here. And exactly what I needed to hear in respect to some of my locals that I am mentoring.
If I DO THE DO too much for them… that is what has kept me as the shoemaker with no shoes for so long.
I then don’t have time to Do my own “Do the thing”.
Brilliant.
As a #sharemytools kinda gal… and so on brand me- I have just been reminded that this is part of my self care.
Sharing my tools is part of my give. It’s the lead a horse to water but cannot make them drink thing… If I also hang around and make sure they drink I am doing the one on one time suck.
I need to make more self care time for me.
Hence, share the tools, let them do. Then I too can.
Love this.
Hugging myself today.
100% yes on all of this.
Share the gift, then don’t hover to make sure they use it any kind of way.
It’s over once it’s shared. We aren’t the boss of anyone’s use of the gift.
🙂
Xxoo. Thanks for also checking in on the self care area today too. This round I am loving the vault tools.
They may have a LOT less traffic, but they are no less powerful, for sure. 🙂