Hello beautiful people. It’s time to dive in on our October Expansive Capacity exploration!
ADMIN NOTE: Please scroll to the bottom of this page for information about our live interactive mastermind meeting via Zoom. Once the meeting has taken place, its recording will live down there for you to review as well.
As we all know — we have 5 categories of tools in our Expansive Capacity Toolbox:
~ tools we use with others
~ big-picture tools
~ quick-fix tools
~ mantras
~ reminders
And we have 5 steps for Choosing the Right Tool:
~ notice it’s time for a tool
~ pick one of the 5 above categories
~ look for a reduction in Energetic Load
~ expect the need for recalibration (even with your favorite/never-fail tools)
~ log what you learned/journal about the process
And now…
The Tools
As always, click to enlarge. Try the new ones out; also try out the ones you recall learning (especially if it’s been a while since you first tried them). Share your workout and any other thing going on in your world in the comments below. We treasure you and so look forward to our time together to put these tools to the test!
New slides for October:
And, here are the ones you’ve seen before, grouped by CATEGORY.
I just love the fuck out of y’all. Truly. The time we share always provides me with so many reminders of what I love about LIFE itself. I’m excited to hear what’s up in your life and of course I’m eager to hold space for you in whatever way feels most nurturing in the moment. Such joy!
So much love flowing your way,
Aligned Hustle Calendar
Y’all.
October 2024 features THE bumpiest astrology of 2024. It’s A LOT. We’re in retrograde season. Multiple planets are in the signs of their detriment or fall (meaning: They can’t do what we’re used to them being able to do in our lives… and they may be cranky or depressed about that). We have a big eclipse right away… and then the non-eclipse lunation mid-month? It’s one of the UGLIEST lunar events we’ve seen in a long while.
Ack!
Not trying to scare anyone… just saying, there’s a reason I say that lunar self-care is all about REST, HYDRATION, and BUBBLEWRAP.
Love that thumbnail. HA!
This month’s Expansive Capacity meeting is happening at this Zoom link at 12pm PDT on Tuesday, October 15th (translate that to your time zone here).
You are welcome to go on camera for this mastermind session, or simply unmute yourself to participate live audio-only. Yes, we will be recording the meeting and putting its replay up here for you to consume within 24 hours of the meeting. Hooray!
If it’s possible that you’ve never Zoomed before, for sure we recommend you get all set up *before* our meeting. Zoom is free, and there’s info on how to get going here.
Here is the replay of our October 15th deep dive. Enjoy!
Your always-fabulous and inspiring chat is here. I LOVE US!
I so love where our convos always take us. No matter what we dig in on, there is so much love and openness and safety in our sessions. THANK YOU for all you bring to everything we do.
Homework, thoughts, things to check out:
~ Faster detachment from the pain is the best we can hope for with some of this. Let’s celebrate that! EVERY time it happens.
~ Practice using Cones of Acceptable Possibilities as a way of blending tools like Pass/Fail, Care Less, and Baseline Criteria. Thank you, Keith, for this very cool new way of looking at our options. Kimberly, keep us posted on what you end up doing!
~ Check out Gladys McGarey’s The Well-Lived Life here at Amazon. Thank you, Connie. Links from the chat: “We see it too late” at YouTube, “We learn it too late” also at YouTube, and the transcript of a podcast interview (also on that same page) here. Also, here’s an interview Deepak Chopra did with her last year, at YouTube.
~ Share feedback with Kimberly on the 1-sheet she has created for her new business (YAY, KIMBERLY) and/or pass that badboy along to folks who could use her badass services!
~ If you want to check out Rachel Maddow’s righteous takedown of those who are voting for the Flaming Cheeto 45 as “a business decision,” here ’tis at the YouTubes too.
~ And while we’re over at YouTube, finally, the Go-Go’s song “The Whole World Lost Its Head” and the chant from the Meatballs movie Keith shared: “It just doesn’t matter!” Happy link clicking!
Your Aligned Hustle Calendar for November 2024 will be on the WELCOME page over the weekend most likely (with earlier EC Zooms, that’s gonna happen the rest of the year). SAVE THE DATE for my year-ahead webinar taking place on Saturday, November 16th at 11am PST! I’ll send out a BonBlast with the link once registration is open.
Next month? BRING YOUR FAVORITE CAKE TO THE ZOOM!! Totally not kidding! Here’s what I’ll be bringing. What a way to celebrate whatever it is that’s ahead for us at that time. Woo HOO! Get out and vote, vote, vote, y’all! Let’s GOOOOOOO!
So so so much love flowing your way!
Amazing it’s looking like a book. I’m ready for the book! ❤️❤️❤️
Getting soooooooooooo excited for that form!!!!! Thank you for believing in the book, Judy. You will hold it next year!!!!!
Okay… this is a bit of a toughie I’m working through.
Excuse the messy stream of consciousness, I’m working this out as I type.
I know in LYC we’ve been recognizing the astrology that shows up in our world with the hidden truths coming to light & a whole dark side being exposed. If you’ve been paying attention to politics or Hollywood & the music industry or sports (really it’s every industry at this point) esp lately with allll the arrests, we’re witnessing soooo much truth being unburied & many idols haven fallen. I’ve never been one to put others on a pedestal too high so while I’m disappointed & disgusted, I don’t feel the sense of betrayal that I’ve seen many who felt loyal to a specific artist or celebrity do.
However, I have noticed trust issues popping up for me lol.
& maybe a struggle to separate message from messenger?
Specifically, I had this happen to me with Abe Hicks. I learned some shady information that made me uncomfortable with the brand but I still resonate with things she says. So I wanted to be able to accept the awareness but still utilize the benefits of the tool. However, the discomfort kept creeping in until I listened to her less & less. I realized today it’s been at least a year & maybe even two (what is time) since I had when she used to be a daily thing. I do miss having that tool & the pragmatic part of me is like, ‘I can take what I need & leave the rest’ but once something gets a little moldy, the whole thing gets taken over by that – even if I really don’t want it to. Maybe that was my denial stage. Maybe this is me grieving a tool that no longer works for me? & there’s some fear there when approaching new tools channeled through other people that I’m giving my energy & focus into potentially misplaced faith.
My brain is judging me for thinking too much (ironic I know) & telling me that’s literally how relationships with anyone or anything works haha. The risk is a part of it. But as a told my therapist, that leaves me with an unsatisfied feeling lol.
I know this is a growing pain but it’s one I’ve left neglected in the corner for a little too long & it’s now demanding to be acknowledged.
Okay, first off, I adore you. This is all so so so good. I love seeing you process this and of course bringing it here to chew on makes it so much fun for me too! THANK YOU for including us in your Circles of Safety!
Next, you’re still very much going through your Saturn Return. Due to retrograde illusion, Saturn is coming up on your natal Saturn again, even though the exact hit of Saturn on your natal degree was in March 2024. In general, we experience the Saturn Return for a year… and it’s a biggie. Almost everyone can mark the point in their lives where there was a distinct BEFORE and AFTER associated with this transit, which hits between ages 27 and 29.
So, just with that, there’s going to be a significant adjustment in how you feel about authority, rules, and systems/structures like religion and education and government and… well… everything.
Hopefully, just remembering THAT will help you feel a little more ease around this time of shifts and changes.
Next, let’s look closer at some of the specifics you shared.
Re: idols falling — even if we don’t really idolize anyone, we ARE empaths and that means we do feel a lot about these secrets being revealed and of course the people who were most heavily victimized by the powerful folks in our industry and on our planet in general. We ALSO have conflicted feelings about having been a part of a culture that makes secrets not only possible to exist but guaranteed to thrive, unchecked, for decades.
Here’s an article I wrote about our complicity in the Hollywood sex scandals that were coming out (seemingly daily) at the time. From that article:
So… there’s that.
And yes, it’s EVERY industry. EVERY system that has thrived in dominant culture. As CrackerJack says, “The cruelty is the point.” https://www.instagram.com/p/C6zKSiLvInW (I think you’d like a lot of their vids. Former kid actor with so so so many smarty smart ideas and a brilliantly cheery way of sharing even the most gnarly of horrible things The Systems do to the world.)
In a world where so much is being revealed — and due to the internet, there’s NOTHING we are spared from learning (vs. older generations, who would wait a long time to learn about atrocities in other lands rather than experiencing them not only in real time but ON GADGETS WE HOLD INTIMATELY CLOSE TO OURSELVES ALL THE TIME) — having trust issues makes sense. It’s part of why so many are turning to astrology, etc., right now. In a time when nothing makes sense, maybe something we’ve been told is poppycock is actually more true than what we’ve been TOLD is true? Yeah. Maybe!
Re: Daily listening to Abe — I don’t know when my daily became a few times a week, then weekly, then a few times a month, then… I don’t know how long it’s been (same as you: What is time?!?) but I still get the daily emails and sometimes those land just right. Also, sometimes a YouTube vid may show up in recommended vids and I can always listen there to see if a message may be right for me at exactly that moment. Because I’m not avoiding my Abe MP3s for any particular reason — nor am I beating myself up about NOT listening daily anymore — I see this as just a natural ebbing/flowing of one of ALL of the tools that have been a part of my life forever.
Like, astrology and numerology were a huge part of my life starting around the age of 7. I never broke up with astrology, but I stopped consulting it for as much about my daily life at some point in adulthood. Was it because my mom transitioned and it was too painful to hang out in her world so much without her being physically here to share it with me? Don’t know. And it doesn’t really matter. Point is, when Keith and I first met — even though I wasn’t really doing the astrology thing all that much, since Charlsie had just died — I did still mention how big a part of my worldview it is. And he, of course, dutifully shared his birth info AND told me he absolutely 100% believes in all of it, even though he’s a cantankerous, skeptical, know-it-all jackass. 😉 Just like his chart says!
Probably in past decades I would’ve been surprised to know that future me was going to be SO MUCH MORE into astrology and numerology than I ever was before, digging into stuff WAY beyond what my mom ever could’ve known, based on what was even available by the time she died. But would I *really* have been surprised? I mean, tools come into (and out of) our lives when we need them, love using them, find them useful to us, or are experiencing some other alignment with them.
AND, I absolutely get the “something gets a little moldy” thing too. A funny lady came on TV recently and I cracked up at what she said and mentioned to Keith, “I love her.” He made a face and said, “Yeah… she’s a big MAGA extremist, hon.” And my jaw dropped, I said, “NO!!!!!” and since then, I can’t see her and say I love her. Sure enough, her formerly-funny lines? Not so funny to me. The part of my life when I enjoyed her work? That’s over now. Can I — in the future — enjoy something of hers again? Maybe. I don’t know. Keith and I were talking about Pete Rose and how extreme his punishment was, re: the Baseball Hall of Fame, wondering whether he may be posthumously inducted there. Is it “turning a blind eye” when you listen to Abe now and then? Maybe. And this is where we look at Energetic Loads. Plural.
The question is: Does the Energetic Load of listening to Abraham-Hicks weigh more than the relief that listening to Abraham-Hicks gives you about whatever issue made you pull up their material? If so, you choose NOT to listen — even though you know the track could be helpful — because what we’re going for in using any of our tools is an overall reduction in Energetic Load. More ease and flow. More calm. More peace.
Of course, when DAILY ABE was the actual tool (vs. pulling up a track in a moment of need), this is a little stickier. And I think there *is* a bit of mourning for anything we used regularly that we no longer feel good about using in that way. The human brain really wants to fill IN that space left by the daily doing. (That’s why replacement beliefs are so necessary when we’re working to create change in our lives.)
As for the fear you’re experiencing re: new, channeled tools… yeah. There is a “once bitten, twice shy” thing at play for sure. But what if you worry less about “giving [your] energy and focus into potentially misplaced faith” and use another tool — PASS/FAIL — to decide whether something you’re now listening to is worth continuing to listen to? Instead of seeing anything new as an energetic investment, can you just ask if it meets the criteria of bringing you relief NOW? Does it lower your Energetic Load TODAY? And worry less about the future you who may end up not being able to keep listening to this new material because of something you couldn’t possibly know now, but will find out about someday?
Could you find a new/replacement daily tool that isn’t channeled? And let the daily tool use feel replenished and in place in ways that serve you while not going all-in on the channeled stuff just yet?
Yes, risk is a part of every relationship and that’s why we use Circles of Safety to determine where to put people before we trust them “too” much. Perhaps the “once bitten, twice shy” of this experience puts channeled messages and those who convey them into a less-close-in circle? OR… is it all white women who go into a less-close-in circle? OR… is it all Boomers who go into a less-close-in circle? OR… what? What would be the classification that you could use about this?
(Problem is, people are ultimately individuals and Esther Hicks doing whatever it is that caused the Abraham-Hicks messages to feel less right for you lately ends up having very little to do with whether anyone else will ever do something similar to you, going forward. So, the brain wants to LUMP and people are pretty tough to lump in many ways. Not *all* ways, obvi — see my MAGA extremist example above.)
Allow yourself to use the newly-shared tool: EVERYTHING YOU’RE FEELING IS CORRECT and see if you can let the secondary and tertiary emotions (coming for all your judgments) get turned down a little bit. Allow yourself to feel what you feel about the whole Esther situation and let it be okay that this kicks up some complicated feelings about what used to feel like an essential daily tool. AND about what it is to be human, connecting with humans, and having moments when that connecting becomes less pleasant to do for whatever reason.
I love that you’re acknowledging this stickiness AND that you’re allowing this to be sticky! It IS! And that’s one of the reasons there are so many tools. 🙂 We have options. And not everything is going to work the same way for us every time, ever. 😉 Embrace the Mutable, m’dear. Also… this eclipse is squaring our Cancer Sun situations… and more, of course. Cardinals be feelin’ this one (and the next lunation… on the 17th. It’s gonna be ROUGH).
Allow yourself space and grace and lots of rest, hydration, and bubblewrap. LOVE YOU TONS! This is a great convo you’ve brought here!! XO