Hello beautiful people. It’s time to keep going with our Mind-Body Connection deep-dive for June!
This month is all about Your Relationship with the Mind-Body Connection, of course. When we last met, we celebrated our HIGH FIVE commitment and I hope you’re still giving yourself this mirror work booster shot!
The Voice Behind the Suits
Have you identified whose voice you’re hearing, when suits rush into the writers room? Almost always, the suits are voicing a parent or a teacher or a sibling or a system or a so-well-trained version of ourselves that we actually THINK it’s our own self-talk. It’s not. It’s our most practiced self-talk representing the rules we’ve bought into. Until now. Share whose voice you’ve identified.
So far, I’ve spotted the directress at the Montessori school I attended from age 2 to 8, my sweet mother Charlsie, my assholebrother, and a LOT of “my voice” because of how early in life I became so well practiced at mimicking those authority figures and role models in my life. Of course, when I ask NOW ME to chat with “practiced voice me,” things get VERY interesting. Because NOW ME has some very different opinions about pretty much everything… and when I allow myself to get curious about these differences, all sorts of magic can happen.
How ’bout for you? How much exploring are you doing with this? How can we help?
Mind-Body O’Clock
Have you scheduled — and shown up for — Mind-Body O’Clock (or Wilma O’Clock, Judy-Judy-Judy O’Clock, Charlsie O’Clock, etc.) so your suits get a chance to be heard? Have you found these to be incredibly SHORT meetings? And that they’re needed far less frequently than we may have feared, going in?
Yeah.
When we give audience to the always-butting-in voices of doubt and low enoughness and shoulds, they have far less to say, it seems. So, keep giving them their meetings! Notice how much less an impact they have on your day-to-day experience when they’re invited in rather than pushed away.
Mirror Work
As you’ve done mirror work of any kind in these past couple o’ weeks (or all the way back to the start of May), have you noticed where — in your body — “things” are coming up? Warmth. Coolness. Shivers. A prickliness. Goosebumps. A tummy flip. A deeper exhale. A shortening of the breath. That you were holding your breath the whole time.
What sorts of sensations are you experiencing — and where — as you experience the confrontation of withing in this way? AND what sorts of conversations kick in off these physical responses? Meaning, you high-five yourself and then feel your guts cramp up. What is the secondary emotion? Do you judge the physical sensation as reinforcement to the belief that you are undeserving of the love you just showed yourself in the mirror? Do you dispassionately label it as a secondary emotion and get curious about the things you attach to it to create these beliefs?
Can you add a beat of withing during this part of the exchange? Allow yourself to get curious about the conversation rather than rushing through it?
Remember the mantra: There is nothing to fix.
Reading Room
Did you select any of the many books I listed off in last month’s post-Zoom update and do a little reading? (Here’s the list again, just for shiggles.) Reminder: These are Amazon links so you can choose “look inside the book” there but ideally you’ll buy at non-cis-het-straight-white-male-able-bodied-billionaries’ bookstores when you can.
Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing the Uncommon by Joe Dispenza; Heal: Discover Your Unlimited Potential and Awaken the Powerful Healer Within by Kelly Noonan Gores; Heal Your Body A-Z: The Mental Causes for Physical Illness and the Way to Overcome Them by Louise Hay; One Day My Soul Just Opened Up: 40 Days and 40 Nights Toward Spiritual Strength and Personal Growth by Iyanla Vanzant; Permission to Feel: The Power of Emotional Intelligence to Achieve Well-Being and Success by Marc Brackett; Something More: Excavating Your Authentic Self by Sarah Ban Breathnach; The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don’t Have with People You Don’t Like Doing Things You Don’t Want to Do by Sarah Knight; When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection by Gabor Maté
If you’re *so* intrigued by any of these that you’d like to propose a little book club action, feel free to do so! That’s always fun. 🙂
Louise Hay Loves You
If you’ve never experienced Louise Hay’s Love Yourself, Heal Your Life Workbook, I have a 2-chapter sample here as a PDF:
This reminds me to give myself another high five! One commitment I surely have to myself TODAY is to stay on my own damn side!! STAY THERE. Root for me! Cheer me on! BE ON MY OWN DAMN SIDE!
Like, whoa, at all the energy I’ve spent FIGHTING ME. It’s a miracle I’ve made it to today, honestly, with all that struggle happening within.
As I feel myself getting activated by the disposition of Past Me, I’m reminded that Now Me has tools. One of them is EFT. (Review this powerful tool here.)
And, because I’m deep in my overflowing mind-body folder for this month’s exploration, I notice I have files that create a bit of a map here, that I’d like to introduce to the party.
How ’bout you?
So, I started out my EFT just now with, “Even though I wasn’t on my own side for years, I love myself today.” Then I went into, “Bonnie, I am SO proud of you for thriving even while being so cruel to yourself. Today, that ends. WE are safe.” And I started playing with tapping different parts of my face — using different fingers — while repeating, “All is well. I am safe. This or something better. I love thriving. You’ve got this, Bon!” and so on.
Taking a break for another mirror (group) high five!
As I tap in various new ways and visualize my body healing itself in miraculous ways, I also know I’m rewiring my brain — creating a partnership that is unstoppable… at a time when a LOT is hard out there in life. What a wonderful time to feel more fortified, supported, and held than ever!
One of the things that helps me remember we are ALL Mutable is the awareness that our cells are recreated constantly, choosing AGAIN to be what our brains tell them to be. If you’ve looked into Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing the Uncommon by Joe Dispenza, you know exactly how this works. It’s fascinating and exciting and a reminder that — even if we’re not into taking this sort of shape-shifting as far as we can — we CAN shift things about ourselves through our beliefs and practiced thoughts about those beliefs.
Feel free to use any/all of my rampage. This feels very powerful and RIGHT for me.
Okay, so y’all know how much I *love* to jump in with a reframe. 😉 Seriously one of my favorite things is noticing opportunities for us ALL to be kinder to ourselves, more intentional with our word-choice, more AWARE of the power of the things we say (that’s counting silent self-talk too, of course).
My sober coach — Bex Weller — recently shared this in her newsletter. I freakin’ love this!
Y’all.
That’s some powerful shit right there!
Share in the comments below — or journal about, or both — how you feel about catching yourself using less empowered language than you can and then shifting that language to be more descriptive of the situation, NOT YOU.
Example: As I write this, I have a slight headache. It’s a tension headache and I’m going to dab on some Past Tense oil at my temples and at the base of my neck. I’m then going to do some acupressure on my hands and feet using those cool charts I’ve shared above. I am ALSO going to adjust my language. Instead of saying, “I have a slight headache,” I’m going to say, “There’s a sensation of pressure at my temples and at the base of my neck.” Because pressure — when a massage — is pleasant. And my ability to use language that could go either way allows my brain to consider interpreting the stimulus DIFFERENTLY.
And what a delight to have my brain — which is ON MY DAMN SIDE — consider a whole different way of interpreting this stimulus? Fabulous!
ANY judgment I feel myself wanting to fling in there about how I didn’t originally come at this with the most empowering language is just Gloop. And I don’t judge Gloop. I “Good dog!” it. “Who’s a good dog?!? Good job, Gloop! You spotted an opportunity to kick up the goooooooood brain chemicals! GOOD dog. Now go to your spot.”
And of course, that’s the feedback I received from y’all. Thank you. I hope you felt inspired by that to think about how you could show yourself some self-kindness too!
Let’s hear all about it! 😉
Aligned Hustle Calendar
If you’re getting my daily Chart Harmony texts or following the daily posts at my Chart Harmony Instagram account, you should be very well prepared for the flavor of each day and what sorts of tasks are most aligned for that collective energy. THIS PRACTICE will come in VERY handy as we get into some bumpier astro in the back-half of 2022.
Stay centered. That’s all any one of us can control out here in this world anyway: our own centeredness. Our own withing. Our own enoughness.
All my ninja love,
This month’s LIVE interactive Expansive Capacity meeting is happening at this Zoom link at 11am PDT on Friday, June 17th (translate that to your time zone here).
You are welcome to go on camera for this mastermind session, or simply unmute yourself to participate live audio-only. Yes, we will be recording the meeting and putting its replay up here for you to consume within 24 hours of the meeting. Hooray!
If it’s possible that you’ve never Zoomed before, for sure we recommend you get all set up *before* our meeting. Zoom is free, and there’s info on how to get going here.
Here is the replay of our June 17th deep dive. Enjoy!
Your lovely chat is here. This was a beautiful meeting with so much growth. I hope you’re still feeling it!
Prompts to keep the work flowing:
~ Meet yourself at Air Sign O’Clock — a chance for all that chatter in the brain to get itself OUT (which is why it gets so loud in the noggin… it’s not meant to be kept there, exclusively). Even if you just meet for a few minutes each day, you’ll soon find the back-and-forth of the overthinking brain has less to discuss.
~ Always honor WHERE in your body you are feeling the emotion. Next month, we’ll dig in on ALL of Louise Hay’s body parts and corresponding opportunities for healing and self-love (as well as some body parts Louise never covered, but that have evolved out of her work — all ripe for discussion and debate of course). ’til then, really connect with yourself when you feel emotion bubble up. Use your withing muscle! And observe. Allow. Honor and breathe into the communication.
~ Do some flipping through the work of Louise Hay (like Heal Your Body A-Z: The Mental Causes for Physical Illness and the Way to Overcome Them — at least do some Googling with a sense of curiosity as you do some dispassionate labeling about the ways in which your body is communicating). We’re going to have fun with this!
Same Zoom link as always and your Aligned Hustle Calendar for July will go up on the WELCOME page in a few days. Meanwhile, if you want to try on the Chart Harmony Calendar for July, I’ve stored it at the webinar replay page, which you can access for a week or so here. (And that webinar was pure fire. Hope you’ll check it out while you’re there.)
Right, so, the first time I read through this page, I just burst into tears. Fun, lol. I scrolled back, walked through the EFT with you, and then clocked OUT. Coming back, there’s a lot of info I’d love to dive in on, and so many rabbits to follow! Brain loves all this. Body… let’s say a little more hesitant. And there’s still a definite trigger point for me in “your body is an instrument, not an ornament”. (Because, of course, how many times has my body been an ornament? Quite literally hundreds for corporate parties and charity gigs with giant feathers on my head as only one variant.) There’s a whole discussion in there of the balance between instrument and ornament, though. I could slice, dice, and pull a Bonnie-air-sign-it-out on that, for sure. 😉
Anyway, for me, identifying voices is still tough. They almost all still sound like that AI-ed version of me… like a brain-hacked doppelganger. Or an alternate universe Cylon. Brilliantly precise. Rather ruthless. I guess in many ways, a shadow of myself because I have those abilities in the light, too. The Now-Me chat is a challenge; she still gets drowned out if I remember to listen at all, and that whole idea still feels kinda dangerous. I can only do it in little glimmers (which is better than nothing, of course, and better than before). I’m not sure there’s even a “help” to ask for, there. Just a ping to y’all that this is where I am… Maybe you are, too.
I’ve noticed the high-5 getting less tear-inducing, but also a little more cold in general. I suspect that the novelty has worn a little, Gloop knows the trick, and so it’s all getting bypassed in my brain a bit. Might need to shake up the routine of that one.
And, not to make this more overwhelming, but I found this fascinating podcast with Dr. Alia Crum I super-want to share. She is the Director of the Stanford Mind & Body Lab. (Did anyone know Stanford had a Mind-Body LAB?!) It’s awesome to listen to, with a ton of really intriguing studies and thoughts shared in the conversation: https://youtu.be/dFR_wFN23ZY
Okay, going to try taking all of this in smaller bits, now. 🙂
So good. Thank you for sharing all of this. Lots to chew on, for sure.
My theory on the high-5 and novelty is exactly the one you’ve suspected: Once the brain is aware of OUR awareness of the Gloop of it all, it gives us another kid in another costume — this time one speaking a different language or needing assistance getting around or trying to find a lost puppy (anything to get us to buy in) ’til we forget that high-5 was working for a while and will again… if we change things up.
This is actually a big part of Chart Harmony, as I’m sure you won’t be surprised to learn. Change things up just often enough that novelty always gets triggered, have enough different options so there’s little chance of boredom or stagnation, make it complicated enough that there’s gotta be a little engagement of the brain to puzzle it all out, keep it FUN because gamification keeps it sticky… and there’s actually a pretty good chance we’re gonna keep doing it — and keep benefiting from it — longer term.
So… can you use Chart Harmony on the Now-Me chat challenge? Could you invite some Chart Harmony energy to the high-5 practice somehow?
Excited to see what you come up with! {{{hugs}}}
Hmmmm… hmm, hmm, hmm… That’s one to puzzle out, Bon. I’ll let you know; not sure what that could or might look like! Hugs are a good place to start, though. Thank you. <3
THANK YOU for this podcast! So good. Keep up the great work Stephanie! Giving you a ‘high five’ right now.
I’m growing I’m loving and appreciating my life more than ever. I’m keeping the Hi 5 post it note up and always connect there at least once during the day but I’m doing it in many different reflections too. What has grown out of this habit is so good for me. From the hi 5 I’ve been saying “you’ve got this” I’m much more familiar with that language so I’m saying that to myself with happiness. It’s wonderful to be thinking I can take care of things on my own – I’ve put so much emphasis on someone coming to help now I see it’s healthier to see I’ve got this, I can accept, I can do this.
Years ago, I appeared on Superior Court playing a character talking about her good marriage and her dying husband saying to her “no regrets baby, no regrets.” Ron had helped me run lines on that and we loved that line and carried it with us through successes and failures. It was a great tool for us it could help us to heal and move on in minutes from troubled times. So I’ve started saying this when the shame and blame come up or want to come up. I want to give up the disappointment, it’s happening.
I’m making subtle changes in my life now I’m accepting being romantically unattached – I can take it. Getting into the now, I’m using good memories if I just want to drift with my thoughts, I’m willing to do my daily spiritual work. I don’t know who is talking to me – I do a lot of rationalizing – it feels like it’s to myself and I don’t know who else I’d be talking to – I’m justifying my actions. But most of my stuff I wouldn’t discuss or have anyone to tell this stuff to. I’m not getting who the suits are for me but I’m confident I’m working on plenty.
Still spending most of my life in quiet time I can’t take the outside voices. I’m so lucky to be living this quiet life. I’m breaking ground – thank you.
Beautiful work, Judy! And I LOVE that the phrase “you’ve got this” is what you’re using. Fun fact: Once upon a time in a headshot session (photos for the back of the book, 3rd ed.), I was in my head and it was showing on my face. Keith whispered to me on a break between set-ups, “I want you to look into the lens and just say what EVERY actor wants to believe about you, as the author of this book about their showbiz lives.” And that line was, “I’ve got this!” Because that way, the actor could RELAX about trying to figure things out. “I’ve got this… and I’ve got you. So you can just take this book home with you and we’ll do the work together.”
LOVE that alignment with your work here!! 🙂 Yay!
The line Keith and I use, when we joke about one of us dying first or something silly causing us to part ways, is, “Welp… we had a good run,” and then we high-5 each other. 😉 LOL Because for me, I never thought I’d settled down with ANYone. Certainly not for any longer than a couple of years! So, we’ve long ago met our Baseline Criteria and are in Bonus Points for many years now. I love the parallel with “no regrets” for you and Ron, too. How beautiful.
I love the baby steps with just getting curious about the convos, the self-talk, the inner monologue… who those suits might be. Just being open to them showing you some personalities and giving you clues about who they are made up of… this will create some interesting exploration.
LOVE that you share your quiet life with us, Judy. We are so lucky! I treasure you.
You make me feel so loved and heard – thank you. Deb Snyder passed on a Abraham Hicks audio for our Light House Zoom about desires and beliefs. It is helping me, I’m thinking of my desire moving me forward and then maybe me dropping all the beliefs/stoppers that keep holding me back. I’m stepping more into “things always work out” and other sayings to change my negative thoughts. Mind-Body Connection, I’m getting glimpses.
Keith’s right I always trust that you’ve got this, you’ve got me. I know if anyone can figure it out, you can and then you’ll spread the word to us. I’m so grateful for all that you pass on, it makes my life better. Yippee!
Judy!!!! It was wonderful to see you in the Lighthouse convos this week. YOU are such a lighthouse to me.
As you are to me Laura, it was so good to see you there I always love it best when you’re in the Lighthouse. That AH audio hit me at just the right moment, I’m changing.
Hello Hello!! I am LOVING Bonnie’s Chart Harmony so much! Can’t wait for Saturday’s session!
Tomorrow is a purple day and I am having my roof replaced on my home sweet home! Eeek! Talk about putting a roof over my own head! Now that all of the gnashing of teeth over needing it and the endless runs through the income and expense of it all is over I am pretty thrilled with my ability to do this for myself and my home. Yay me! Good dog!
Tomorrow, my kiddo Shiloh, my kitties Louie and Maria and me will pack it in and head to my parents apartment about an hour away and hang out until all of the noise and disruption is over. The roofing company strongly advised us not to stay in the house while they rip off the roof and staple down the new one. They drape the house so as not to damage it and it gets really dark inside under the drapes. It’s also LOUD!
This feels like a metaphor for the past year of my life. Going within, closing the blinds, doing deep, sometimes LOUD work to self partner and look within and become my own source of love, approval and companionship. I am still a bit under the drape but I feel lighter every day. I can’t wait to have a new roof!
My body is feeling the effects of over 2 years of self soothing with food. I have allowed myself grace around that. My body responds to stress with GERD (Gastro Esophageal Reflux Disease). I know for sure it is a physical manifestation of all that am digesting in my life. This year was so full of roughage, it’s a challenge to digest! I also know that the extra weight is exacerbating the GERD. So here, at the end of this “black day” (see Chart Harmony for this delicious reference) I share with you lovely humans that I am ready to release the need to use food to regulate my emotions. Letting go of what is not serving me.
I’ve been doing a lot of tapping on binge eating and emotional eating. I have discovered, through a tapping program by Brittany Watkins, that binge eating and emotional eating are two very different things. She says, emotional eating is when you eat something you love that you associate with a time when you felt amazing. For me that’s chocolate – especially fudge. It brings me right back to summers at the beach in Rhode Island at my Grandparents house. My sweet Nana and her sweet home made fudge. OMG it is so good. My Mom has the recipe now and makes it for Shiloh. When I eat anything even closely related to chocolate fudge it gives me that sensation of Nana’s love. When I need to feel loved, it’s such a strong craving for that specific and particular taste that I’ll go to the store in the middle of the night for it. Emotional eating is specific. Wow! What a realization.
Binge eating on the other hand, she says, is a pushing away of an emotion rather than wanting to experience a sensation that is associated with love or joy. Binge eating is done to move away from and not feel it at all – so for me that’s chips and savory snacks but it can be anything. It’s when you do the “pantry walk”, as an old trainer of mine used to say, and you eat the stale crackers because you just have to eat something, anything, and as much of it as you possibly can. I can run through an entire bag of savory snacks or stale cookies or just about anything without a seconds awareness, it’s like a vacation from all emotion. Then of course I feel like crap after when I come to.
Some people never experience either of these and some only one or the other. I experience both! 🙂 I am tap tap tapping on all of that every day and it is helping. There is a lot more to the program than this and it is deep work. Part of my reframe is to say each morning, “I love myself, therefore I give my body nourishing food to eat”, “I love myself, therefore I eat slowly and mindfully”
I LOVE the idea of not identifying with the sensations in my body as being me. LOVE. My body is a vessel to be cared for and thanked and appreciated. YES!
When Shiloh was a newborn we lived in Boston. It was 2002 and it was one of the coldest snowiest winters on record at the time. Shiloh’s Dad was working in Stamford and was gone for most of the weekdays, home on the weekends. There I was. Far from friends and family with my little infant in a tiny railroad apartment in the middle of a very cold very snowy winter. One day, I decided that cold was just a sensation and that as long as we were safely dressed and didn’t stay out too long it was nothing more than that and off we went. I think that reframe saved us both that long winter. I recall those walks with great fondness. Shiloh snug against my body in their Baby Bjorn walking the streets and breathing the crisp air. Prior to that winter I thought I HATED the cold. We humans really can reframe anything!
Well that was a ramble I wasn’t expecting! Ooooo maybe my Mom will make fudge tomorrow. I hope so. And I will eat it, slowly and mindfully and with great joy!
Hope to see you all on Friday!
Yessssssss fudge tomorrow for your that beautiful celebration of your new roof and the light being let back in on your life after so much fabulous healing!!
Also, re: binge eating… I find that the act itself absolutely does mute our emotions, disconnect us, etc., and then AFTER we get that big emotional download of shame and fear and sadness and “the devil you know” type emotions vs. the less practiced ones we might have been avoiding when we picked up the WHATEVER to eat.
So, in a way, we are OKAY with having strong emotions… we just want the ones we KNOW (the lower ones) than the ones we’re less practiced at navigating. Often, we’re masters at the lower emotions that come after binge eating. So… bring ’em on!
And, I am RIGHT THERE WITH YOU on using Black Days especially to rewire my brain for the healthier choices I made with food, mid-2016 to mid-2020. Like, even the first few months of quarantinetimes, I was “eating clean” (mostly) and something just switched up in July (woo alert: It was the shift into a Jupiter profection year, that month, and Jupiter says MOAR with no brakes).
ANYway… I am asking Daddy Saturn to help me with structure and the EASE of clean eating, without making me bad or wrong for having gone on an all-sugar diet for so long. I’m also allowing SLOWNESS with this, rather than being strict or using my over-developed Upholder tendency, because so much of my North Node work these past couple o’ years has been about releasing/relaxing the Upholder. Noticing where the Upholder is *actually* the voice of dominant culture (cis-het straight white able-bodied male) and not to be believed. Stuff like that.
Feels great. Sustainable. Loving.
And totally open to fudge! 😉 Thank you for all you’re sharing. I LOVE how you reframed COLD. That’s a perfect example about how powerful the brain is. I love you so much. LOVE LOVE LOVE how much you’re loving Chart Harmony!!!!!! See you Friday!
Laura, Bonnie thank you – I’ve been suffering with sugar eating all my life. At your ages it was so hard (sometimes impossible) to stay looking good in my body because of sweet cravings. I ache for you and yes Fudge is the best.
I need to eat nutritionally and I’m not. I love sweets. I buy the fruits, vegetables, eggs, salad stuff and it all goes in the trash as they expire and I eat the chocolate candy and sugar items because they taste so good. I’m doing the best I can and my desire is to find a way to be happy feeding myself well nutritionally.
My dreams have come true here in my eighties and my sweet addiction doesn’t show on my body anymore. I do want to do better nutritionally but right now I still can’t. Forgiveness for myself!
Yes yes yes! There was a great revelation for me in the podcast that Stephanie shared. It’s not only what we do (or eat) or don’t do (or eat) it’s also what and how we THINK about what we do or eat — just fascinating. Our actual physiology CHANGES based upon or as a result of what we THINK and believe about what we do or don’t do (eat or don’t eat). I can’t hear this enough. I’ve heard it and heard it and said it and said it and I just need to keep hearing it and saying it! ❤️
Right?! I just found that particularly mind-blowing, the results of the “Milkshake Study”. Truly.
Thank you Bonnie! What a fabulous connection you made about the strong emotions following a binge. That is exactly right. It’s not the strong emotions that we think we can’t tolerate and push away from, it’s the different or new emotions. Wowie. Definitely going to explore that.
I also love your allowing it to be slow. I will take that for my own as well. So good.
Chart Harmony ROCKS!
Love the modeling of ease and taking things slow, Bonnie. Noticing the voices and what’s “not to be believed.” That gives me a lovely inner ping, thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing all of this, Laura. I am very grateful for your example of self-love and care. And what a cool mind flip with the winter! I love that image of you and Shiloh bundled up, walking in a winter wonderland.
I have been ruminating over the binge-eating vs. emotional eating because I find myself eating healthy some days and then binging bread and cookies other days. A lot of emotions and I think the carbs are part comfort, part panic.I appreciate your reference to tapping and advice from your coaches. Going to tap it out myself.
I love what you wrote about the body being a vessel. It makes me think of what Deepak Chopra says about treating the body as a friend.
Thank you for sharing your journey.
Wow, wow, wow – I’m thinking and talking differently, it’s happening, I see the light, the way to improvement. There’s nothing to fix but there is enlightenment.
Mind – Body Connection oh does that mean teeth too? Said innocently.
My teeth have been a big life ISSUE – at your age Bonnie I suffered agony and paralysis with mercury poisoning due to the fillings in my teeth. It’s been huge a giant fear of losing my teeth/looks. I can’t talk about it saying this is too much – anyway last year I had an implant fail after a couple of years, they’ve redone it I just had the permanent tooth put back in and I’m freaked it could fail again – I had never considered or even heard of implants failing and I certainly don’t want to hear any more about that – fear wants to rule, I say NO.
Finally, finally, finally last week I got the flash, oh my teeth are the body. I went to Louise Hay.
Teeth – Represent decisions.
Teeth Problems – Longstanding indecisiveness. Inability to break down ideas for analysis and decisions.
Mantra: I make my decisions based on the principles of truth, and I rest securely knowing that only right action is taking place in my life.
I’m blown away by this concept – in my life I have a running drum beat of questioning my decisions. I make decisions, I make them quick, I make them sure and move on, it looks like. But underneath I ruminate over and over I think that’s the rationalizing I’m thinking of. This is new thinking for me and it’s profound. At 20 after a suicide try my brother convinced me that my problem was indecision and I needed to make decisions and move ahead – I did it and I’ve taught this and taught it – it works! I can do better I can let it go.
The most comforting words in the mantra are – “rest securely knowing that only” – to shorten the mantra for myself I use those words then the rest – right action is taking place in my life. And I add the mantra for skin – It’s safe to be me.
Okay this is why I always want a man who will be making the decisions – then I can decide to agree or disagree it takes me off the hook of decision making somehow. Now I’m acting like I’m a widow living out my life no one needs to come.
Amazing I like my new thoughts, they are changing my life as predicted. Thanks for sending the Louise Hay workbook I’ve printed it out, it will be my breakfast reading.
For me I check into my You In The Stars book once in a while and my chart when I’m curious about something but I forget it I don’t remember my details. I don’t mind I don’t want too much information I’m liking silence a lot. So proud of all you are developing Bonnie it will bring in multitudes to hear your messages. They will be changed if they choose.
PS I just loved Laura saying “Shiloh’s dad” instead of my x husband. I’m using the phrase now for my daughter’s dad. I love it!!!!! So empowering.
Thank you for sharing your journey and discoveries.
I am loving the Louise Hay reconnection and have been going to her book almost daily.
It is safe to be me indeed! 🙂
This work has been so helpful especially when I had to fly to Michigan to visit my family. My cousin suddenly passed away at 42 due to alcoholism and we had no clue he was in so much pain. The day of the funeral my Dad tells us, “No crying at the funeral.” I of course told myself, “not mine to carry” and allowed myself to be authentic-to be the lighthouse that I’m meant to be. I can be myself fully and my top 1/3 will join me. I would’ve been upset with my Dad 7-8 years prior, but I’m not at all now. He’s doing what’s familiar and safe for him.
I’ve been high fiving every morning and I love how grounded I feel in my heart. When I first started I wouldn’t take myself fully in and now I do and love the connection I have from within. I LOVE our high five video above so much and it brings me so much joy!
I’m enjoying scheduling mind body o’clock at the very end of my day so my meetings with (Billy) are short or non existent. Billy loves to try and take over in the morning/afternoon overthinking and I tell myself, “I hear you and let’s meet tonight at 9pm. Sound good?”
Aaron, I’m so sorry to hear about your cousin. And I’m so proud of you for honoring your self and your feelings and being the lighthouse you are.
I’ve been enjoying the high fives too.
Gotta try scheduling in the mind body o’clock. Haven’t tried that yet, and I like your example.
High-fiving you from across the internet 🙂
Thank you ❤️
LOVE that you’ve named Billy and given him a very specific time, and you’re firm with that boundary. Aaron, THAT is the kind of practice that made it do-able to hold a boundary with your father at SUCH an emotional time when old muscles can soooooo easily take over. Wow wow wow! I am SO proud of you.
Having had a very long and very deep love affair with vodka myself, I know the reality that is masking how bad off things are because we can fool the world AND ourselves AND keep drinking, all at once. It’s just so handy! Until it’s not. I’m sorry for the loss and I know that had to be tough for everyone, but, again, I am so impressed with how you allowed the emotional journey to be what it needed to be FOR YOU. Your father can choose no crying. That’s for him. That’s his stuff.
YOU are in your own third!!! 🙂 Isn’t that glorious?
I love our high-5 GIF too. 😉 I really smile when I watch us. We’re so cute!
Love you, Aaron. You’re doing great.
Doing the mind body work, there have been a lot of opportunities for healing:
I got Covid. Fever, chills, aches, and brain fog (more like brain gaps). Very rough but didn’t end up in the hospital. Thankful..
I also had a blip on my mammogram. And that was scary. Luckily it all turned out well, and I continued to focus on my healing.
I deep-dived into my healing meditations, and this one in particular helped me:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4dMucFZtnxQ
Also the MHz healing music. Thank you for turning me onto that, Bon, from the Get in Gear vault.
This is a fave:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9Mzyf_B8rQ&list=RDQMpkQ0hK5ttwk&start_radio=1
And Deepak Choora’s chakra meditation:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3661sFNFoKU&list=PLHs6LxnXXaWq91spaxagPvhsjK47qcMv0
And Bon, I reviewed your True North meditation, because, being sick, I felt like I lost my way, but my path has always been clear in my heart and your True North meditation helped me find my way.
So much of this time for me seems about rest and love and forgiveness and just being in the light, trusting in the flow of the universe, trusting myself.
Thank you, Bon, for reminding me of Louise Hay’s workbook.
Thank you for the prompt to look at “the suits,” identify their voices. It’s my mom and dad and grandmother, my husband at times, and there’s so much fear. Afraid of being ‘wrong,” or doing something wrong. And I can comfort all of “us” with Louise Hay’s “I am divinely guided and protected at all times.”
So much fear. So much to let go of. So much to make room for.
Blessed be.
PS – not sure if I can make the Zoom today but I’ll catch you all on the replay. Thank you all for sharing your light and love.
We love you so much, Laura. Truly. You are a beam of light!
Yessssssss! This is such good work, Laura. You are exactly where you’re meant to be and you’ve GOT this. So proud of you. Thank you for sharing all of this and I’m so glad you’ve had a non-hospital experience with the ‘vid… and thank God the blip was just a blip. {{{hugs}}} Be gentle with yourself. Life is a lot right now.
Thought of you on Midsummer, Bon, and felt such a boost of magic that day. Hope you did too.
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Something is compelling me to share this with this group, so I’m not going to fight it. This is captured from a live Zoom class I taught two years ago with a colleague (!) that was themed around mind-body-voice connection. We called my 20-minute section “Breathing Colours”, and it’s basically a guided breath & movement improvisation with optional sound-making (we’re talking small space movement and no technical skill required). I just have this feeling it’s for someone to ground/explore/do some withing with, I don’t know. https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SonmxpR8lII7MNvUSpRyPl3JDMeIXFeC/view?usp=sharing
I could do a live one sometime, or properly record a track (because this is a rough capture)… The exercise is different every time I guide it depending on the day and the energy in the room. Anywho, I offer it here and hope you enjoy it, if it’s calling to you. 🙂
Everyone’s comments are so helpful I love re-reading them.
The air-sign o’clock was just the thing I needed, I didn’t get it at first but now I do. These thoughts are just becoming apparent to me – I get it they are negative thoughts. So I say okay tonight last walk you can have it all, then my mind moves on. By the end of the day I’ve forgotten or too tired to whip it up. It’s been a few days. I’m still using the “good going” and high 5. My self-talk is so good – rest securely knowing that only – just love those words.
So thrilled with the muscle-building you continue to do, sweet Judy!